This weekend, Craig and I attended a retreat for the Missionaries of the Holy Spirit in the Family apostolate we recently joined after moving to Lincoln. The retreat was designed to help us discern our charisms to share with our families. Friday night was spent learning about the role and mission of the family. Saturday morning we went to mass, had brunch together as a group, and prayed the rosaries individually as families in the evening. Sunday afternoon was spent in Adoration with a prayer team present.
Logan Burda helped lead our retreat. He spoke Friday night and was on the prayer team Sunday afternoon. One takeaway I had from the retreat was from some of his research and education regarding fatherhood with us. He had a paragraph that he shared with us regarding the family and fathers that was very thought provoking:
“In the Church’s Magisterial Documents, the family is called: the domestic church, the church in miniature, the church of the home, and the believing and evangelizing community. St. John Paul II said that “the future of humanity passes by way of the family”. Pope Benedict XVI further stated that “the New Evangelization depends largely on the domestic church”. Dads cannot neglect their role as the priest of their own family. By virtue of their baptismal priesthood, fathers are called to lead their family in modeling, instructing, and forming their children in the faith. When dads neglect being the spiritual leader of the family, studies consistently show nosedives in the percentages of children who retain the faith in adulthood. Jesus’ mission for every Catholic is to make disciples who understand God’s plan from the beginning to be fruitful and multiply His image in the world. For a father, this means his ultimate goal is not only to get his children to heaven but to form them in such a way that they are equipped to get their children to heaven as well as their children to heaven, etc.”
I always knew the importance of fathers and have had a great respect and appreciation for them. I know their importance over their children’s lives. This weekend, God made it even more evident in my heart their role and mission. As parents our goal is to get our children to heaven. But even more so, our goal is make disciples of our children. I know it is my role as his wife and the mother of our children to help support and pray for Craig to carry out this mission.
Logan was talking about how at parishes, a lot of women will pray for their priest/s. This made me think about how I can do this for Craig, specifically for his fatherhood for our family. I pray for Craig as a dad daily, but I am going to begin praying for his fatherhood for our family more intentionally.
Lord, thank you for the gift of Craig. Thank you for calling me to be his wife and to be the father of our children. I beg you to reveal to Him your love for him as your son and that he may always find his identify as a son of God. I ask you to teach him what it means to be a dad. Help him to model, instruct, and form Henry and our baby in the faith so they may come to know you personally and may come to know your unconditional love and mercy for them. Help Craig to lead and guide our family to You. Open his heart to receive your gifts and charisms to help him be the dad and the man you are calling him to be. Form and mold Craig’s heart to be like our Heavenly Father’s heart. May Craig be a prayerful, virtuous, merciful, faithful, and loving father who strives to imitate our Heavenly Father. May be lead and disciple our children so they may disciple their children for generations to come. Amen.